For IIC's newsletter... My writeup..first actually haha.. They told me to give self help advices... some incident triggered me to write this one up.. and actually i need to write more to practice myself because i will be jotting down a lot of things related to this throughout the trimester...Leave some comments please... whether negative or positive... oks lng! just want to know ur opinion on my first journal hehe
Cool Pressure
You ever get the feeling that you're left alone and you go running to your so-called friends for comfort, only to discover they're not actually the friends that you've wanted? But you can't seem to leave them. You've become dependent on them even if it's against your will. It's called "peer pressure", I'm sure that you, at some point in your life, experienced it.
Nobody wants to be lonely. All the school stuff, family issues, environment and poverty..... do you want to handle this alone? Of course not! Oftentimes, most of us exert extra efforts on how others can accept us inspite of our deficiencies and weaknesses. It's not bad.. but most of us tend to overdo things which is contradictory to who we are, our real personality. Let's admit that some of us are not mature enough to stand up for their own decisions. What we don't know is that as long as we're adjusting too much for the sake of other people without making a stand for ourselves, we are eventually losing our stand on being
a mature and responsible person.We lose our identity. In other words, we become forever dependent on the opinion of others .
on the word cool...
Why does everyone crave to be branded as "cool"? What's the big deal anyway? Others think that being "cool" is everything. Well it's not. We only spend at least 14 years of studying with 3 divisions of crowd. Grade School, High School and College. You can't be cool in every stage of schooling. Some of my friends, based on experience, sucked way back in high school but are now spending quality time with their college friends. There's nothing wrong about being cool. but let's just accept that some people "have it" and if you're the type of person who is "uncool" to the sight of others, don't force yourself to be one. The word cool is only a branded word. Maybe for this school, being smart is cool, on the other one, being in a varsity team is cool. So don't overdo it, you can't be cool anywhere so might as well join the "olats" team if you think they're the ones who can make you happy. Don't be afraid to be branded. What is important is being able to be yourself regardless of what others may think of you..
Opting to listen and heed to what others are saying without thinking leads you to a lower level than being "olats". Acceptance of oneself, decisiveness and responsibility are the key factors in fighting peer pressure. If you can't seem to fit with anyone, or any type of crowd, you can always find ways to spend some time with yourself and think about things where you went wrong. Anyway.. you are the one who defines your happiness so don't let anyone dictate your actions. Stand for yourself and and stand for your rights. As long as you're are on the right track and not stepping on other people's toes...... fight peer pressure!
